Comments on: Sex Can Wait. So Can Marriage

By: myth buster

myth buster — Thu, 31 Dec 2009 05:44:35 +0000

16. Note that while the Old Testament never expressly forbids premarital sex, it does require that a couple that has had sex get married immediately, and forbids a man from divorcing his wife if they were married in this manner. In other words, you are creating a distinction where none exists- if you love each other and are committed to each other that much, get married!

By: Adrienne

Adrienne — Wed, 16 Sep 2009 20:42:46 +0000

I think it’s time for Christians to review the old prohibition against premarital sex in loving and exclusive relationships. Note that the Bible doesn’t expressly forbid premarital sex; it only forbids immoral behavior. How can sex be truly immoral if both people want to share in their love for each other? Am I wrong to believe that couples are wrong to marry as a license to have sex? That in itself is an immoral act!

By: Early Marriage « Man of Depravity

Early Marriage « Man of Depravity — Wed, 12 Aug 2009 12:12:24 +0000

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By: sTim

sTim — Tue, 11 Aug 2009 14:21:48 +0000

Wow. A momentous occasion for Brad’s blog: the first troll, complete with bad grammar!

Congrats Brad, you’ve made it to the big time now! =)

By: Uzzi

Uzzi — Tue, 11 Aug 2009 03:57:02 +0000

@dewde

Are you a male or female? And The day I take suggestions from you, someone who enjoys starting internet fights, which btw is pathetic will be the day I put a gun to my head.

By: dewde

dewde — Tue, 11 Aug 2009 03:54:08 +0000

@Uzzi:

Know what else is thousands of years old? Name-calling. We should get rid of that too.

Want to go first?

peace | dewde

By: Uzzi

Uzzi — Tue, 11 Aug 2009 03:47:29 +0000

That is ridiculous. It is almost 2010. The bible was written thousands of years ago. Are we going to start acting savage and primitive like the people who wrote the bible? NO. Times have changed. To all you religious freaks get used to it.

By: dewde

dewde — Mon, 10 Aug 2009 21:39:18 +0000

I am reminded of C. S. Lewis and his opinion, and I’m paraphrasing, sometimes it’s better to shack up than to get married.

[quote]
If people do not believe in permanent marriage, it is perhaps better that they should live together unmarried than that they should make
vows they do not mean to keep. It is true that by living together without marriage they will be guilty (in Christian eyes) of fornication. But one fault is not mended by adding another: unchastity is not improved by adding perjury.
[end quote]

It doesn’t make sense to me to discuss the sex/marriage/youth issue without also including the divorce issue. Because the couple’s beliefs in this area are equally important in discerning the correct course of action.

peace | dewde

By: Clayton Bell

Clayton Bell — Mon, 10 Aug 2009 20:00:38 +0000

I agree with the above, we can’t put a blanket rule on everyone. However, if we, as a culture, didn’t pamper and treat young people with such, well, kid gloves, perhaps they’d be emotionally ready to get married at a younger age. Biologically, there’s little argument as to when it’s best for a woman to get pregnant and have kids- when they’re “too young.”

It seems most younger Christian couples that I know, including my wife and I (23 and 21 at marriage), are more emotionally mature and not upset they’ll miss more of life’s experiences as singles.

Perhaps the problem isn’t getting married younger, but the lack of emotional and spiritual maturity in most young people?

By: Sarah

Sarah — Mon, 10 Aug 2009 18:47:01 +0000

I think it’s great that you are willing to bring up issues that are controversial! Kudos to you!

My husband and I met, and got married 2 1/2 years later when we were both 22. We were young, but we knew it was the right choice for us. I’m not trying to over-explain where I’m coming from, but just giving some background.

I have a good friend who started sleeping with a loser of a guy – a loser of a guy she ended up marrying. And while I agree that sex is sacred, and should be respected, I also think that marriage should be, even more so. To this day, I believe she married him (at least partly) because of the pressure in Christian circles about not having sex before marriage, and if you do, you should marry him. I disagree. So you had sex? Does it make it right to enter into a lifelong commitment with someone you shouldn’t be with? That’s not how God intended marriage to be. I would be more surprised if these 2 did NOT end up divorced some day.

And about the statistics of young marriage and divorce – I find it really sad that the marriages of people who love and follow Jesus are affected by the same statistics as those who don’t. Ideally, it would look different, wouldn’t it? Shouldn’t our whole lives look different? Again, that is just an ideal. And I’m not perfect either!